Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Lent

It's Lent. Do you know what that means? Neither did I until I saw my favorite childhood funny man Pee-Wee Herman teach me on Conan O'Brian the other night.

*skip to 5:15 to the meat of the lesson.... the rest is not related



Ok, so maybe his story was not 100% true, though it was funny. Ironically enough just days before this aired I was having a discussion with my co-workers over lunch about Easter and why the date of Easter moves around so much. This prompted research and further discussions about the meaning of Easter.
I shared with them that I grew up with a family that believed in nothing. We never went to church of any kind and to be honest, everything I learned about Jesus and his life I learned from the musical "Jesus Christ Superstar." Sad but true. I actually, at the age of 30, thought it ended there... that he died on the cross and that was all. Little did I know he rose again according to the Christian religion. This then prompted me to feel horrible about my lack of knowledge and I suggested an educational program for staff members working here because I think, working for an organization such as this, we should all (including me) know the basics. Gretchen has since offered Sunday school for us (well, for me since I apparently know the least) and then this amazing Sunday school-ish lesson appears on my tv just days later. After an entire day in the office of discussing religion and Jesus and his life, a point was made - it's not that hard. "We just talked about our views and opinions and shared what we know and don't know for over 2 hours so why can't our members do that?" Nobody, even me, walked away feeling belittled or bad - we actually felt enlightened and I felt supported intellectually and spiritually by my co-workers. Not the place I would expect these types of conversations to happen though but that's what Phi Kappa Theta has fostered for us in the office. Why can't the brotherhood relationship foster that for you out there? What do you now know about Easter and lent? How can you share the level of importance it has on your life? Please... share with us in a comment!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Lessons from a new colony

For those Phi Kap members who haven't yet heard. We have a new colony! Please help me welcome our newest group from Bridgewater State University in Bridgewater, MA to the Phi Kappa Theta family! I had the pleasure of spending the last 5 days on campus with these gentlemen, doing A LOT of training and planning for their colony. During our weekend I realized that while this group still has a lot to learn about Phi Kappa Theta and fraternity life, that they also had a lot that they could teach some of our older chapters. So here are some lessons from a new colony.

They dream big!!
I have worked many times with existing chapters who are looking for a change and trying to set goals. The thing that always occurs however is often existing chapters goal set or dream with blinders on. They see things as challenges, rather than possibilities. Our new groups have a tendency to see the big picture. This group inspired me when they talked to me about how they wanted to be viewed as a fraternity and what they wanted to be known for. Its big!


They all start as equals.
Our colony members don't get initiated until they actually become a chapter. Therefore they all start on a level playing field. There is no active and new member divide, when a member gets a bid they then aren't required to spend 8 weeks proving themselves. They immediately become a part of the group and start assisting in the decision making. I promise you, they have passion. But they were able to get that through a shared vision for the group, rather than having a list of things to do to prove they belong there.

They ask Why
Part of the reason they ask why is simply of course because they don't know. They've never been in a fraternity before and are in the process of learning what it means. But the asking why benefits them! So many chapters are afraid to ask why. They do things because its "tradition" or because that's how its supposed to be done. If groups asked themselves why more often, I think we'd start seeing that many of those traditions have no place in Phi Kappa Theta. In fact when planning recruitment events the first thing I heard was " well we shouldn't be doing that event solely because everyone else is doing it" They challenged and questioned it all.

This group really sparked my passion for fraternity and sorority life again this week, because they have the ability to see the possibilities. I hope others can learn from their excitement as well.

If you haven't yet, follow them on twitter at @bsuphikaps. Or their facebook fan page Phi Kappa Theta at Bridgewater State University!

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

National Hazing Prevention Week

Monday marks the beginning of National Hazing Prevention Week (September 20-24). Campuses nationwide are hosting speakers, contests, and giving out information regarding hazing and its effects. Here are some ideas for you and your chapter to take a stand as well.

- Actually participate in the hazing prevention activities that may be going on in your campus community.

-Take this time to review and take a look at your Associate Member Program. Be critical, is it really serving its purpose?

- Take a look at the Sigma Nu #40 answers campaign. They took some of the most common excuses for hazing and provided rebuttals. Use these to have a discussion within your chapter. You can find them on twitter if you search for #40answers or you can find some of their blog posts here http://sigmanuhq.wordpress.com/category/hazing

-Make a banner, wear a pin, announce to the campus that your chapter is anti-hazing...and ACTUALLY mean it!

-Use a video to spark discussion with your chapter. ResponseAbility or Hazed are good ones. You can also find clips at www.hazingprevention.org of personal stories.

These are just a few of the many ideas that campuses and chapters can do to celebrate National Hazing Prevention Week. We'd love to hear other ideas you have, or chat with you about creative ways to integrate this into your chapter. You can also find a lot more ideas and information at www.hazingprevention.org and we encourage you to do so! Lead the way!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

So you want to land a job?

Every year as school is ending (or has ended) there will always be graduates everywhere in panic mode. Job searching is hard, time consuming, and you need to get to get paid and get out of the parents house! Before my position here at Phi Kappa Theta, I spent a lot of time working in career development and still volunteer my time assisting students in finding jobs/careers. So I thought I would empower our members to get moving with (in my opinion) 5 things to step up your job search game. Hopefully even those not currently job searching will find some value!


1. Give concrete examples and experiences. I can't say this enough!! For example. Don't tell an interviewer you are a good communicator. Instead tell them that you improved communication between your chapter and alumni board by appointing a liaison and organizing monthly meetings. On your resume don't write " I sold tires", instead try " Exceeded weekly tire sales goal by 10 percent." Employers don't want empty words. Also be aware that the trend in interviewing has moved to behavioral questions. Employers don't want to know what you would do in a situation, they want an example of how exactly have you dealt with a situation in the past.


2. Research, Research, Research! You should be researching any company or position extensively. You shouldn't be applying for a job or going to an interview without knowing about who they are and what they do. Not only does it show employers your clear interest for position, but it allows you to tailor your resume and cover letter, as well as interview answers to allow the company to see how you would benefit their specific organization, rather than just any job or company out there.


3. Speaking of tailoring your resume... Unless you are applying for the exact same job with the exact same types of companies, it could be helpful to have multiple versions of your resume. It is more work on the front end, but you are able to sell specific skills better this way, and could have a much better chance at hearing back. But more importantly, you should NOT be sending out the same generic cover letter to everyone. The cover letter is the chance for you to add things about why you are interested in the position and what makes you a good fit for the company. It a way to personalize and engage the employer in a way you can't with a resume. A generic cover letter will not highlight you to your best advantage.


4. The little things do count! Checking timezones when setting up a phone interview, being courteous to administrative and wait staff, being on time, actually asking your references if they are willing to be called upon (rather than just slapping the name down of an old supervisor), writing coherent professional e-mails. All of these things matter! When job searching, you need to be projecting a professional image 100 percent of the time, you never know who will offer you a job! (seriously, I was offered a position with the hotel while waiting for Anita to pick me up for my interview here...you really do never know!) When hundreds of candidates are trying to get the same position, it doesn't take much to get you taken out of the running. And while we are at it, I know you've heard it, but please clean up your online presence.

5. Being in a fraternity is an advantage, but only if you use it to your potential. Fraternities always sell the after college benefits of joining, I'd bet the majority of our chapters do the same. There are absolutely benefits to being a Phi Kappa Theta member after college, but being in a fraternity doesn't mean you will suddenly have access to great jobs and networks, it just means you have the opportunity to do so. So use fraternity to your advantage. Come to conferences and network with chapters, staff, and alumni volunteers, look up Phi Kap members in the city you are interested in moving to. Join your chapter alumni board or group (or start one!). And for those still in school, make a difference in your chapter so that Fraternity can be a selling point on your resume, not just a club you throw in at the bottom of the page!

I could type much more if given the opportunity, but hope this post gives you some things to think about and re-energizes those of you in the midst of it all! And I'll always answer questions if you have them.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

I just flew in and boy are my arms tired!

Okay, so the joke in the title isn't funny, but I did just fly in and thought it would lead in to a great post about travel!

Rob and I just got back into town last night from what I believe is our last traveling of the school year! In all of the traveling I've done this year and all of the Phi Kappa Theta members I've met with, the most common questions I get are about the traveling we do. Members want to know how often we actually travel, how many chapters we see, what its like to have a job like this, etc. So coming fresh off of two colony visits and being grounded for a few months, I thought this would be an interesting post.

To start with a Phi Kappa Theta travel review, I did some quick math on our travel stats for the year. Many of our events did have multiple staff members attend, but for ease I only counted mileage one time. While we have a larger staff, the traveling staff consists of myself, Rob, and Anita, so these miles are between just the 3 of us. Miles traveled from August 1 to today.

Fraternity Conferences (Convention, PA, Regionals): 1,298 miles

Chapter/Colony Visits: 15,897 miles

Misc (Board meetings, Professional conferences, etc) 9,453 miles

Total miles traveled since August: 26,648 miles

Chapters seen : 17

States visited: 10

These definitely aren't exact numbers. I did some estimates as it would've taken me much longer to do a true total. But hopefully it gives a view of what it looks like for us here in the office. The summer is typical quieter, though I think most of us have at least one conference travel this summer before LI in St. Louis!

I also get asked a lot about what it's like to be able to travel for work, usually from members who career wise are curious what it would be like. The Phi Kap staff doesn't travel constantly. Average is once or twice a month per traveling staff member depending on whats going on and we do our darndest to get the most out of each trip (multiple chapters during a trip). But my quick answer to members who ask...is that it is really cool to travel! We get to see different cities and campuses, we get to meet people all over the country and I have fun stories from almost every trip. I feel lucky to get to experience the country in a different way than many and wouldn't trade it for anything! However members who are considering jobs with traveling components also need to understand that it isn't always great. It can get lonely and it can be hard to miss events at home that are going on. You see a lot of hotel rooms and airports and don't always get to explore the city you are in. And believe it or not, you do get sick of eating out.

I hope that answered the questions that I always get. Happy travels for anyone who is, and I look forward to seeing new chapters and new places during the next school year!

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Leadership Institute









Registration for Leadership Institute 2010 has been open for a few weeks and we couldn't be happier! This year looks to be an impressive conference. For the first time we're including spiritual development training for all attendees, etiquette training, and brand new alumni training. Two major highlights of the weekend include a night out at the City Museum which includes dinner and a few hours to explore the museum. In addition, we are holding a drive where we are asking attendees to donate items to Annie Malone's Transitional Living Program. Visit the event page on the website to see a full agenda, items to donate, and information about Annie Malone's.

Early Bird registration ends on April 16th so hurry and register to save $50 per person! Remember that all chapters need to send at least two people and we encourage all of our members to attend. We are hoping for record numbers this year so get registered!

If you have any questions about Leadership Institute, please contact Anita Kerlin at anita@phikaps.org.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Manliness-Some Thursday Food for Thought

A colleague posted this on facebook today and thought it provided an interesting perspective into what it means to be a man, or to be manly. Do you agree? disagree? Tell us your thoughts! The Art of Manliness also is an interesting site around the same topic!